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Why does strong passion often fade, even in couples who still love each other? And why doesn’t intimacy guarantee passion? When two people meet, they have fantasies, but it seems that intimate relationships don’t always follow the rules that keep peace and harmony between partners.
When we don’t understand and feel our partner, it can lead to problems, less pleasure, and fulfillment in the bedroom.
Without growth and change, the excitement that comes with newness disappears quickly. The desire and intensity of feelings also fade away.
In intimate relationships, our minds can work in different ways. It can be controlling, analyzing, and limiting. Or it can help us choose the right partner, understand what we’re doing and why, and enjoy communicating with them.
Sometimes being too controlling can get in the way of pleasure, but in other cases, it can be helpful.
It’s important to know that men’s brains often attract many women, and men prefer smart women for long-lasting relationships.
Being calm and empathetic can lead us to sacrifice for our partner, trying to make them feel better even if it means neglecting our own needs. But these qualities also contribute to building love, passion, and mutual pleasure in a relationship.
Desire for growth can cause problems if one partner wants to improve while the other doesn’t.
If we don’t work on developing our personal relationships, passion can fade, and we may fall into a routine.
Intelligence is about making good choices for ourselves and our relationships.
Emotional intelligence is popular, but it’s also important to develop erotic intelligence, which involves taking what brings pleasure to us and our partner, building a long-lasting and creative partnership.
Why is erotic intelligence attractive to everyone?
Intelligence, calmness, the ability to understand and feel others, and a desire for growth are the qualities that define intelligence here.
Imagine how pleasant it is to be with someone who has qualities like care, sexual attraction, and the ability to build strong relationships.
People value intelligence, sensitivity, kindness, and development in others, and they are naturally attracted to those who have these qualities.
If a person lacks these qualities, why would they want them in someone else? This can create mismatches and lead to relationship problems.
People tend to be attracted to others who are similar to them.
We can only accept from others what we are willing to give ourselves.
Sometimes we may admire someone’s uniqueness, but if we can’t respond in the same way, it can lead to disharmony in the relationship.
So, if you want your partner to have certain important qualities, develop them in yourself first, and choose partners who also have them.
Erotic intelligence may not be attractive to everyone, but it is appealing to those who value and cultivate it in themselves. These qualities are rarely innate; they develop and grow over time.
To develop our erotic intelligence, we can focus on sensuality, the ability to enjoy, and connect it with our personal intelligence. This way, we can attract partners who also value erotic intelligence and build strong relationships with them.
One way to develop it is by attending the 5-day online NEW! Workshop: From the Backup Plan to “The Only One”.
With love,
Natalia Kobylkina
