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Before discussing the psychological reasons for the lack of climax, we need to ensure that the woman doesn’t have any physiological reasons. If she reaches the peak during self-pleasure, it indicates that she doesn’t have physiological concerns and should work on her mindset.
Here’s what could be going on in her mind:
Inability to relax with her partner. Lack of trust in her partner – when there’s no trust in the person you’re with, you can’t allow them to trigger and witness your peak.
Fears: fear of conception, fear of illnesses, fear of surrendering oneself and losing boundaries, fear of appearing unattractive during the moment, fear of intimacy.
Incorrect breathing (the right breathing during intimacy is always through the mouth and ideally in sync with the partner).
Unsuitable conditions (if there are others nearby or the bed is uncomfortable, too hot or too cold, etc.).
Personal insecurities and concerns that something’s wrong with your body. For instance, scent issues, being in your cycle, or thinking your body isn’t ideal.
Strict or improper upbringing, where intimate moments are considered dirty and bad. Often, if the mother has never experienced satisfaction herself and tells her daughter that it’s normal, it becomes the woman’s fate.
Lack of self-acceptance and information about oneself and one’s body. Fear of experiencing intimate fluid release, which you might perceive as involuntary urination, not understanding what’s happening during climax.
Negative past experiences. Quite often, if the partner was inexperienced or didn’t make an effort to bring pleasure to the woman, she concludes that intimacy is uncomfortable and designed only for men.
If she knows it’s just a one-night stand. She doesn’t take the partner seriously and doesn’t want to open up to them because climax is a very intimate experience.
Overthinking the climax and trying too hard.
The partner reaches the peak too quickly (within 5 minutes), and assistance is needed to delay it.
To learn the intricacies of satisfaction, don’t hesitate to explore Female Pleasure – Uncovering Intimate Sensations
With love,
Natalia Kobylkina
