Why do strong, bright women fall into such situations?

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I cried about it…

I gifted a dear friend of mine tickets to the Tina Turner musical. I honestly did not know much about Tina Turner; I only knew she had won a ton of Grammys — and that the musical was based on a famous book.

I did not know that Tina Turner lived with an abusive man for 15 years. I did not know that she escaped him in the middle of the night, beaten and clothed in merely a nightdress. She was hugging her children that night.

I watched the story, her story, told through music. My friend and I sobbed as we held onto each other. I love female friendships; I love being understood without having to explain myself. 

After we calmed down, she turned to me and asked, “Why do strong, bright women like her fall into such situations?”

In Tina Turner’s case, her mother and father got divorced when she was just a child; her mother abandoned her, leaving her with her grandmother. Tina grew up parent-less. At the age of 16, she was all on her own. She had to survive.

What happened then? She found a man who sensed her weakness and abused it.

She caught up on that, however. She spread her wings and decided to fly high–high above the problems, the pain, and the suffering.

When a woman wants to fly, her partner has two options

1. He could hate her for her talent and do his best to destroy her. He could drink, cheat, lie, steal, and even humiliate her. The list is long. Such men cannot accept their women’s success. That destroys many women, actually. They succumb to their partner’s hate–and live rather short lives.
2. He could learn to love her inner goddess, to accept that something within her is bigger than both of them combined. He could understand that she is one of those women who SERVE THEIR MISSION. He could see that her mission means THE WORLD to her. This man can realise that stopping her from pursuing her mission means taking her life away! 

Tina’s second husband was the second type. 16 years her junior, he adored her, donating his kidney to save her life. He is just an ordinary man. But he is an ordinary man WHO CAN LOVE. His greatest strength is his desire to serve his woman as she serves her mission.

These two groups of men constitute 95% of men who approach strong, successful women who desire to have a family. 

The situation can be different if the couple does not have children–or has now-mature ones. The difficulties and challenges, in that case, would be different.

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Love,
Natalia Kobylkina
Psychologist, family therapist, author
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