When you meet you partner, you think to yourself: “Finally! It was worth all the waiting! They are smart, strong, active.” You are happy with them. They understand you very well, and in your head, the wedding dance is already playing; you’re thinking of names for your children and fantasizing about living together forever.
At some point, however, they disappears or want personal time, and you accept it as normal.
After a while, they return, and this starts to frustrate you. You search for reasons within yourself, thinking you did something wrong, and try to change your behavior. You try different strategies, but nothing helps. Sometimes they reappear unexpectedly, and you have passionate nights. You believe they love you and you mean something to them, but then they disappear again.