Gaslighting – the silent killer of your confidence 

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In recent years, the word gaslighting has been used more and more often — on social media, in psychology, and in conversations about toxic relationships. But what does it actually mean, and why is it such a dangerous form of manipulation? 

Gaslighting is not just lying. It is a systematic process in which one person gradually undermines another person’s sense of reality, truth, and self-worth. 

1. What Is Gaslighting? 

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which the manipulator causes the victim to doubt their memories, perceptions, emotions, and judgment. 

It is one of the most subtle yet most destructive forms of emotional abuse. It does not come with shouting or open aggression, but with words that slowly shake your belief in yourself. Over time, you begin to doubt your thoughts, your feelings, and even your own reality. 

The term comes from the film “Gaslight” (1944), in which a husband deliberately makes his wife believe she is losing her mind by altering her environment and denying obvious facts. 

2. How Can You Recognize Gaslighting? 

Manipulation rarely begins openly. It is often hidden behind seemingly “normal” phrases such as: 

• “You’re too sensitive.” 
• “That never happened.” 
• “You’re making things up again.” 
• “Everyone thinks you’re overreacting.” 
• “I was just joking — the problem is you.” 

Over time, these messages take root, and the person begins to wonder: 

“What if the problem really is me?” ,“Maybe I’m wrong…” 

3. Where Does Gaslighting Occur? 

Gaslighting can happen anywhere — in the workplace, in families, in friendships — but most often in romantic relationships. At its core, gaslighting is a form of control. 

4. How Can You Protect Yourself? 

The first and most important step is awareness. If you often feel confused after talking to a specific person, that is not a coincidence. 

Helpful steps include: 

• trusting your inner sensations; 
• talking to people outside the situation; 
• setting clear boundaries; 
• reminding yourself that your feelings are valid; 
• seeking professional support when needed. 

Gaslighting is the silent killer of confidence because it works invisibly. It doesn’t break you all at once — it slowly makes you forget who you are. 

Healthy relationships do not make you doubt yourself. 

They give you clarity, calm, and respect. 

If you constantly wonder whether the problem is you — maybe it’s time to reclaim yourself. 

Find out how in “Anti-Manipulation for Women – A Practical Guide.” : HERE >